“I’m in love with you.”
I love the English language. I find it fascinating. So, I’ve been thinking about what it means to be in love and, more so, what it takes to be in love.
“I’m in love WITH you.”
The word ‘with’ suggests togetherness. It suggests being in love together. Does this mean that to truly be in love the other person must also be in love with you?
Being in love is incredibly intimate and personal. It is a deep, close connection. I don’t think it can be done with someone who isn’t close to you… but does that necessarily require the person to be in love with you? I’m thinking they’d have to love you in some form, but they’d not have to be in love.
The English language is subtle and leaves room for interpretation (which, in my opinion, gives it so much charm) but it is accurate. Even if you’re not both in love, you’re still in love with that person because I can’t see how you could acquire the level of intimacy required to be in love with someone without them loving you back in some form. They have to allow you, to some extent, to fall in love with them by allowing you to get close enough. It’s a privilege.
‘To make love’ is also accurate phrasing. Even if it’s between people who do not love each other, it is still an act of love. It contributes to creating feelings of love because it literally is making love.
Our language says what it means more than we realise.
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